Flirting – What is it? How do I do it? – Part 1

Flirting – What is it? How do I do it? –  Part 1

This post is the first in a series about flirtingYes, those brilliant one-liners you see in movies but have no idea how to do! We will teach you how to flirt like a movie-star. 

In this series, you will learn what it is, why use it, and most importantly, when and how to flirt. You will also learn how to recognize when someone is flirting with you and how to react. We will utilize examples, exercises, and homework assignments to help you master this art form. At the end of this course, you will be a natural.

So, only because we like you <wink-wink> – let’s start.

What is Flirting?

Here is the definition from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary:

A: To behave amorously without serious intent.
B: To show superficial or casual interest or liking.

Since we live in the real world – not in a dictionary – let’s translate this to real life: Flirting is sending a message that you might be interested. The core element of a flirt is the mystery that it contains. That ambiguity allows you show interest without any commitment. Just like Merriam-Webster defined it: Without serious intent, superficial, or casual.

But why flirt? – Isn’t it just confusing?!

Now that we know the essence of flirting, it is easy to realize its advantages.

1. Flirting allows you to gauge interest before you announce intentions. When you flirt, the other person is left guessing if you are actually interested or not. You can then adjust your next step according to their reaction. Knowing that someone likes you before you ask them out will reduce rejection.

2. Flirting lays down the groundwork for asking someone out. Asking someone out without a previous indication of interest can feel out of place. By flirting first, you can change the context of the relationship and ensure that asking out feels natural.

3. Flirting frames the relationship as potentially romantic. When you are flirtatious with someone, you’re evoking romantic interest, and they will notice. Not only is flirting helpful when you first meet someone, but it is also a great tool to get out of a friend zone.

Now you know what it is and why it’s important. Stay tuned for the next post, where we will continue to explore how to flirt!

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Author: Israel Irenshtain, The Dating Academy.

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